We See Ourselves

Relationships are important. We see ourselves in all creation around us. When we “fall” in love, we are glimpsing our beautiful selves in others. And they in us. It is an empowering experience. No wonder it seems as if we have known the person we have fallen in love with for a long time; we have fallen in love with our deepest and most powerful self. As long as we accept what we both see in each other, things go well. But we soon start to undermine what the other sees in us, because we know it is not us they are seeing. We feel like a fraud, and we get busy destroying the image of ourselves that the other person holds. We think we are destroying a fraudulent image of us, but we are really destroying a real and magnificent image the other person has of themselves. And this action goes both directions.